“You Can Heal Your Life” by metaphysical lecturer and teacher Louise Hay is a truly life-changing experience – if you read and then apply its principles, and even if you only read it. Not since Rick Warren’s “The Purpose Driven Life” has a book touched me so profoundly or made such a difference on and in my life. Not just another “self-help” book, it forces you to look at the factors in your life that are holding you back and guides you on the path to self-acceptance and approval, but most importantly, self-love - the “key” to unlocking your complete potential in becoming everything you always wanted and were intended to be.
There are four parts to “You Can Heal Your Life”: 1) The introduction, where Hay describes her philosophy and the basis for her beliefs; 2) A session with Hay, where she takes you through a journey of self-discovery and covers how to deal and continue to overcome any arising issues; 3) Areas of your life from relationships to success to work, where you can apply what you have learnt on your journey; 4) Hay’s final words, where she shares her story, so that you can understand “where” the book “comes” from.
According to Hay, the key concept to changing your life comes down to a very simple but “hard” aspect [for many] and that is the MIND – what we believe is what happens, or, as Hay starts out chapter one with: “What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us.”. The way we think is so very important, for what we think affects us on so many levels, psychologically, physically, emotionally, which is why Hay says that “there is only one thing I ever work on, and that is LOVING THE SELF…when we really love and accept and APPROVE OF OURSELVES EXACTLY AS WE ARE, then everything in life works.”For someone who has never loved themselves until recently, it was no surprise to “learn” that I needed to, but it WAS revelational to discover that it was such lack of self-love that unconsciously “created” and employed my self-abusive and destructive sabotaging behavioural habits and patterns. Reading through “You Can Heal Your Life” much of it made sense and for the first time in my life I began to become truly able to “explain” some things about myself that had puzzled me [and others] for years. (Those who create assumptions or perceive only an “impression” of me will not understand, but those who know and are close to me will see what I realized through my studies of Hay’s work).
Definitely not for the faint of heart or those unready and unwilling to explore deeply the inner workings of their psyche, “You Can Heal Your Life” engages the reader by constantly asking them to question themselves, look within for answers and seriously meditate upon uncomfortable issues that would make most cringe, as well as undertake exercises that might seem “silly” or trivial and yet are anything but.
For example, chapters two through four explore “what”, “why”, and “where” the true root/s of the problems in our lives stem from, chapters seven through nine focusing on “how” to deal with them and change from the inside out to transform our lives.
The more one searches within themselves, prepared and willing to face their demons and “insecurities”, the more truth they discover and uncover, opening up a new world of perception and possibility. For example, finally understanding that instead of being a source of motivation for change, constant criticism of self only serves to detrimentally affect our self-esteem and worth, leading to unconscious self-sabotage of the very dreams and goals desired, allows us to begin to accept that negativity deserves no place in our lives and to begin to work on replacing anything remotely self-defacing or defaming with affirming assertions and positive permissions to create a psychological sense of peace and ease that permeates safety and thus eliminates the “need” for anything that might destroy it, unfolding in opening doors because there is no longer any hesitation in action towards that which we want, because the belief that we are deserving of our desires is now “heart knowledge” and not just “head knowledge” that we are trying to “convince” ourselves of. In fact, if you initially read through “You Can Heal Your Life” from start to finish non-stop and then RE-read it, taking the time to fully concentrate on each chapter and the exercises presented in them "progressively as they appear, by the time you finish, you will have begun to change your life”, as the “knowledge” from having first read the book turns from “ah” to “OH” as it truly transforms from something you “know” to something that you FEEL deep in your essence/core [where true change and transformation starts].
Although most of “You Can Heal Your Life” had personal effect on multiple levels, there were several things that stood out to me: 1) Accepting yourself is NOT enough – you MUST LOVE yourself as well, alongside self-APPROVAL, and that self-acceptance is NOT self-approval, which is pertinent to self-love and positive change in your life (chapters one and two); 2) The exercise thinking of yourself as a 3-year old child and your reactions/responses to self when you do something you consider “wrong” or “not ok” or disappointing, and asking yourself if you would say that to a 3-year old who had done the same thing and why not, realizing that your self-talk is “creating” the environment you live in and if you would not treat or talk to a 3-year old in such a manner, why is it that you treat yourself so? (chapter six); (3) Those we have “learnt” from are only doing and being what THEY have been taught and have learnt and that they cannot “teach” us something that they do not “know” or accept as truth themselves, especially enlightening when dealing with the issue of parents and their treatment of us, causing consideration of how THEY were brought up and what kind of environment and circumstances would “create” such individuals(chapters one and ten); 4) The concept that physical ailments and “diseases” stem from METAPHYSICAL causes and that if you deal with the root cause then the physical issue no longer exists and is “healed” (chapters fourteen and fifteen).
“You Can Heal Your Life” may have been considered “revolutionary” when it was first published, introducing ideas and concepts that might cause many to reject the “help” it offers, and I believe that even today the “truths” outlined in it would receive the same reception from many, because society has created such mindsets that are not open to anything they cannot see or fathom or that can be explained scientifically or logically. Yet, not everything in this world makes sense, nor might it ever, human beings are among the most complex matrixes that exist within it, and I believe that if one reads “You Can Heal Your Life” with an open mind and heart and soul, they will start on a path that can only lead to wonderful happenings in their lives.
“You Can Heal Your Life” offers practical advice on how to begin to make and effect positive changes in your life, from daily exercises such as affirmations and meditation to practicing yoga and mirror work.
Not everything is easy to accept and undertake, especially something like mirror work, but the more you do it, the more natural it becomes, and understanding that it is a LIFESTYLE and not temporary definitely enables you to be more patient with yourself as you work on and through things.
Enlighteningly transformational, “You Can Heal Your Life” continued the long-needed journey (that began the day of The K-Do Alliance photoshoot in early May 2015) of accepting and learning self-acceptance, approval, forgiveness, and love. It has truly made a world of difference, not only in how I perceive myself, but also in how I view and interact with others, because I think differently, and I only want to share the truths I have learnt with others, so that they too might understand and be able to truly “live” and make a difference in their own lives and the lives of those around them. It is definitely a book that I highly recommend for anyone seeking to better themselves and the world they create and live in.
First written and published by Louise’s own publishing company Hay House Inc. in 1984, “You Can Heal Your Life” was most recently revised in 2004 and can be found in many bookstores available. Purchase by clicking here: BUY NOW